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So, you have come to suspect that your long-term partner is cheating. There are a few telltale signs that can confirm your suspicions enough for you to gather some evidence and confront your partner.

At some point during your partner’s infidelity they are going to slip up. The more confident they become that they won’t get caught; the more likely these slipups are going to happen. The thing is, with all the lies your partner has to tell to keep the affair a secret, at some point they are going to forget what they have said. It is going to be confusing to remember what they said they were going to do and what they did do! If you think your partner is having an affair, try keeping a little diary of the excuses they have used for being late or going out on their own. This way you can catch them out as you will know what they have said and can compare it with what they are trying to cover it up with.

If your partner comes home with lipstick on his collar or smelling of a scent that you don’t wear, don’t accuse them straight away. Sometimes it is better to read their reactions, these can be a great help in deciding if your partner is cheating. Just mention casually “Oh love, there seems to be a little lipstick there” See if their facial expression turns to shock. Even if they later try to say they were accosted by a drunken female or it was a co-worker having a laugh, it doesn’t matter as you were able to see their first reaction.

If your partner starts wearing an item of jewelry that you don’t recognize, this could have been given to them by their new lover. Make a note of it, and if you get the chance have a closer look, it may be engraved. A great way to gauge your partner’s reaction is to play with it when you get the chance. If they are wearing it, mention how nice you think it is, see if their expressions and body language become uneasy. It is also good to see that once you have expressed an interest in the item of jewelry, will your partner ever wear it again around you. They may have hidden it for fear of you knowing what they are up to!

These are just a few of the little tricks you can use to catch your cheating mate out. There are many more, and if you feel that you are being cheated on, it’s only fair that you find out the truth.

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Marriage was once an institution, once you were married, it was for life. Unfortunately with the increase in infidelity many marriages are on the road to divorce. If you suspect your partner of cheating there are a few signs that you could look for to confirm your suspicions.

A good sign that someone is being unfaithful is there constant state of distraction. They always seem to be in deep thought, almost worried about something. This could be your partner struggling with their emotions, the feelings of guilt they are experiencing because they are cheating and trying to decide what to do.

Another sign is excuses to leave the house or encouragement for you to leave the house. If they suddenly being enthusiastic towards you going on your own to visit friends and family, when they would have complained before. Creating silly arguments over nothing and having to leave the house to calm down and cool off. These can be signs that your partner is cheating, and wants to make time to go and see their new lover.

Becoming secretive is another telltale sign. Has your partner suddenly started to erase calls and messages on his or her phone? Has the internet web browsing history been deleted? Do they step outside to make a call, do they have an e-mail account you don’t know about? Have they suddenly become interested in new online communities such as Facebook or Friends Reunited? These too could be a sign that your partner is cheating or thinking about it.

If you do notice any of the signs above, make sure you have physical proof before you start to accuse your partner of cheating. The last thing you want to do is throw away a marriage over false accusations.

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