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When a partner or spouse is having an affair there are many dirty tricks that they will use to get you off their backs.  Many have been tested time after time where as some others are imaginative if nothing else!  The one they ALL have in common is that they are all engineered to get you out-of-the-way and to allow them time to spend with their new lover.

The trouble with affairs is that they require time. If, your partner spends most of their time at work, the only spare time they have to give to an affair is going to come out of the time they are spending with you.  The time away may vary; remember a “quickie” can last less than five minutes, but as the relationship between your partner and their secret lover develops they will probably want to spend more time together.

You may notice an increase in reasons your partner is spending time away.  Business trips are a common excuse, and a perfect opportunity for the lovers to spend time together in a hotel.  If your partner does need to spend time away on business, ask for a contact number or the hotel name where he or she will be staying.  If there is nothing going on then this information should not be a problem to obtain.

Late night working hours can also be common excuse for those having an affair.  It is easy to say there is a certain project nearing completion that needs extra time spent on it, especially if you do not work in the same building.  You have no way of knowing whether their workload has indeed increased.  To find out if the extra working hours are necessary, you could try calling the office at the hours your partner is supposed to be there.  Another way to catch your partner out is to ask what time they might be home.  Arrive at the office half an hour earlier than they said and see if they are there.  If they are there, check to see who else is there?

Has your partner suddenly become a fitness fanatic?  Are they spending unusually long hours at the gym?  The gym is a good cover for those who are having affairs as the change of clothes and the damp hair from a shower are usually actions for those that visit the gym.  If you think that your partner may not be going to the gym you could suggest that you too would like to try to be a little healthier. Suggest that they take you to the gym to show you the ropes.  If you are taken along, you can see who interacts with your partner there and how much they know about the gym!

These are just a few signs that could suggest your partner is playing away.  There are many more, just be careful that you don’t throw false accusations around as it is difficult for a relationship to recover once the trust is gone.

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